FR: Bad night and good night

Went out Friday and Saturday with the usuals…

Friday: Friday wasn’t much of a productive night. I only really open up a few sets in the night. The first set I walk up to two blondes, fairly good looking, and just try to introduce myself, but stumble all over my words. Wow….I lost it before I could get the set going. Other than that, I open a few sets here and there with not much enthusiasm put into it or thought. Not thought as in, inside your head; no thought as in my brain doesnt want to come up with anything lol. Just completely stifled/brain dead the whole night.

I’m coming up with a couple of things to make sure this doesnt happen again. I started to exercise regularly again. I have a trainer I see a few times a week, but I’ve begun to do an hour of hard cardio on the other days of the week. I think doing all this will not only keep up my energy level and testosterone levels, but it’ll also keep me out of that logical side that runs through me all week doing accounting. I’ve also decided to talk with friends on the phone on the train ride over. I want to also either talk to people on the subway/talk to the taxi driver on my way to the venue. Talking up a storm before I hit the venue will start up the butterfly effect way before I actually get to the bar. Not being talkative the whole day, and then hitting up a high energy environment and to expect to just open up sets is very very difficult to do. All week, I work in a very logical environment, and getting out of that is difficult to do. Obviously I wont be quitting my job anytime soon, so I’ll have to take alternate steps to snap out of that. I’ll keep you updated in future FRs.

Saturday: Complete 180 from Friday night as far as being social and unstifled. On the train ride to the city, I saw a friend that I hadnt seen in months so it was great catching up with her. It kept me in the talkative mode, and no longer seclusive ipod mode haha.

Me and Dave get to plunge, and I spot an older woman standing by herself. I thought she was cute so I took the initiative to approach. I open her direct right off the bat….but her husband is here and shes not so interested. Not a big deal….I let it roll off my shoulder, and I fluff talk with her for a while. I eject, and go back to Dave where we talk, and greet other guys there like The Judge, Distant Light, Adonis, Hiro, etc. Practically all the RSD and NYS guys are out tonight, which is cool.

I pop open a few sets here and there, not amounted much of anything besides a short stent of attraction, followed by fizzleness. My boy Dave gets two k closes that night. HELL YEA BUDDY! I cant wait for Dave to pull regularly. I think he will start doing this sooner than you think. He wants it badly….and he’s drastically getting better each week. Plus he put a deposit down for a future RSD bootcamp with Jeffy. Oh man…I’m so excited for him.

I saw a couple of cute Asian girls from a distance…I notice that two of the girls are being gamed by some PUA, and it looks on. Then I see the third Asian chillen by herself, so I figure I should make her night. I open up by introducing myself, and find out that…SHE DOESNT SPEAK ANY ENGLISH!!! Like maybe just Hi, and her name,….but that’s it. Wow…I hate this already. But she seems interested. Even though we’re not on the same conscious communication level….there’s a little bit of spark. I make up nonsense for a while, and make her laugh. I’m kinoing her a lot….I’m clawing her a lot…and taking pictures with her…having a great time. I realize that her drink is finished….so I lead her to the bar to buy another one for her. I normally dont buy girls drink…but she was really nice and genuine, and I thought we had something going on. I do this to get the girl…I do this because thats what I felt like doing. I grab her hand, and lead her to the bar….and after lead her to a secluded part of the bar. I feel like its on…and I go for the k close, only to get rejected. She gets all surprised and just says “I’m Japanese”….which I really dont know what to make of that. She is super shy, but she sticks around for a little bit longer. She later leaves to find her friends. I wish the k close would’ve went down because her friends were really cheering for us to get something going. Oh well….I kinoed, I lead, I self amused….did a lot of things right…just sometimes its not there. We move on…

During the night, me and Dave end up talking to a pair of Australian women. I made the mistake of trying for rapport…and seeking value…instead of self amusing and just being chill. I kinoed which is good, but I felt needy….like I needed to set to work out. I shouldnt’ve been like this, but I learn from my mistakes.

By the bar, I open up a black chick by the pool window. I tell her that me and her are gonna grab something large…break the window…and go skinny dipping. She loves me right away…laughing her ass off, and kinoing me hard. We joke around for a while….as shes from Bed Stey and I’m from the suburbs, so we roleplay as a couple, which was really funny. I find out that she’s there meeting potential clients….so although I’m kinoing a lot…I know that a kiss or pull isnt going to be so obtainable. I should’ve gotten the number, but I never seem to think of that while in set, unless the girl says something about it. I should make of a note to do that.

I walk outside to see Dave and Distant Light talking it up to a 3 set. I notice one of the girls chillen by herself not engaged in the conservations, so I make it a point to jump in and start something. I forget her name….but shes a lawyer from Brazil. Shes pretty cute, and def my type. I joke around with her….and self amuse myself by convincing her that I got arrested last week for streaking on my block, and that she can be my lawyer. She actually believes me…but I think it’s because she doesnt get my humor. I’m really sarcastic…and maybe its me…but I feel like it doesnt go over as well in foreign sets than with American girls. My friends end up leaving the set to look for mo hotties. Her two friends say that they’re going to the bathroom…and ask if she wants to come. She says no….which is a very good sign for me. We fluff talk for a while, getting to know each other, and I fizzle the set out. My problem is transitioning to a kiss…it seems so awkward in my head…and it really isnt. Anyone reading this, just to give me some advice on this. So after awhile, I see that look on her face…its the FRED PUSSY LOOK! Meaning…shes disappointed because shes given me the opportunity to lead her to that next level…and I dont step up to the plate. Ahhhh I cant count how many times I’ve seen that look in the past 2 months. I need to learn and apply the saying “Get blown or blow it up”….by some PUA. I should either be leading to the pull or getting blown out of set. It’s a tough thing to apply, but all the great guys in this game have done it, and I will try as well.

Over the night, I open up a few other quick sets that I dont really remember much. After awhile, I started to get burnt out and hungry, and end up talking to Dave, DL, and other guys for awhile. It’s great seeing these guys….as we all kinda have an unspoken bond with each other. It’s like we know we’ll all there to improve our lives…and we have the same goals and pursuits….and we’re not there to purposely fuck each other over.

Me and Dave end the night with an awesome meal at a nearby diner. On the elevator ride down, we end up talking to 2 cute girls..and invite them out with us to get something to eat. They say they have to visit there friend bartending, but they seem to be hesitant and upset to leave. I say that we’ll stop by later to free drinks from there, and they tell us to come by. We forget….Shit lol

All in all…Satuday WAY better than Friday. Less in my head, and the talking with people way before the club/bar seems to be successful so far. I’ll have to try it out a few more times to see if it works for sure.

I’ll leave you with this….

Glory times await us….

See you next week

FR: Backstreets Back ALRIGHT!

Saturday started with an uplifting phone call from Dave, after feeling bummed out the past couple of days. Part of it had to do with the stress of work the past week…part of it was my chodey mindset trying to shadow my confidence. Dave explained something that Ozzie said…”Everyone at the club has the same value”. A girl can be hot as hell and have high value at first, but once you get to know her, she may have bad breath or work at Dennys. I forgot about this concept, and it definitely made me feel better hearing it again.

At night, I meet up with Dave and Raven. We hit up Park at first and its dead. Okay. Then we hit up Plunge. It’s kinda dead due to the bad weather, but I do pop open a few sets to get my state up. I’m just trying to approach right off the bat. I’m still at the point where I wont approach every set I want to. I see a lot of cougars at Plunge tonight, and just stifle up and dont approach them. I just have to step up and do it.

Then we hit up a couple of other places in the meatpacking district. We hit up Gaslight District. VERY CROWDED! I accidentially open up a set because I thought they said something to me when they didnt, so I went to approach. Right off the bat they tooled me…trying to make fun of my long hair, as if I really give a shit. I can just tell that they’re sucky people to be around. Everyone is having a great time, talking with each other, and these two girls are just sitting there thinking theyre high and mighty. I’m pist that I ended up talking to them. I stay unreactive, and just kinda stop talking to them because I didnt really plan to in the first place. They try to reopen me again, and I just dont really care at that point. Dave ends up chatting with them for a few minutes. I still hear whats said, and all of a sudden, I see the brunette kinda slap Dave. At first, I thought she was doing that for no reason but to be a bitch, but I later found out that Dave got a zinger on her, so PROPZ!!! lol We get tired of Gaslight, and walk to Park.

We go back to Park again, and NOW its poppin. I open a few sets that aren’t memorable. The only thing I can really note is that my unreactiveness is getting a lot better lately. I just dont let stupid girly comments bother me. I dont see it as them dissing me…I just see it as a unconscious test screening….to see if im legit or not. And even when they do something I dont care for…I just say something like “jeez youre weird” and go right back to the convo at hand. I’m trying to implement Tim’s net theory into action. Before we leave, I see a really cute Asian girl texting her friends. I say to myself “I want that” so I go over to her and open by saying “I thought she was cute, so I had to come over and meet her…I’m Fred”. She seems pretty receptive to this, but also says she just got there and she is looking for her friends. I dont think I did anything wrong….she may have just been in a different mindset.

After a little while, we hit up Plunge again. Theres a ton of people there now that the rain has cleared. Matt from Superconference is at Plunge again, and always great to see him when he comes out. He’s really progressed after coming back from Europe for the summer…as he gets MAJOR attraction and hooking in literally any set he walks into. Good shit.

I smoke a cigarette outside talking to Dave as he feels stifled the whole night. I try to encourage him the whole night, with me pushing him into sets to pump his state up, which kinda works. All of a sudden, he opens up a HOT asian with great tits. Shes with her friend….and the next thing you know, I start flirting with the asian. Sorry Dave….I didnt even mean that lol. Something snaps in me though. I really want this girl…and I claw her and I’m all over here. She’s digging me but shes pretty drunk at that point. I’m just talking jibberish, making her laugh, and I feel like I get something out of her, whether a makeout or pull. But then, I get in my head. Doh. I pull back because I realize how close I am to kissing that hot ass asian. Soon after that, her and her friend leave.

I’M PISTTT!!!! I was so close, and couldn’t believe that I let a girl like her pass me by. I FELT THE FURY! I was literally shaking because I was mad at myself. The intent was full throttle, as I wanted to go back and get what I had deserved. I go walking around and find her again inside. I plow through, and claw her immediately…and start flirting with her. We joke around again and we’re very close AGAIN…and i pull back AGAIN! AHHHH!!! She then grabs her guy friend, and the 3 of them eject.

For those 5 minutes of fury, I felt like The Hulk. I just morphed and got very focused and intentful. I’ve always tried to stay level headed, but that set drove me to a rage that I dont like getting to. I used to get that way when my dad would do shit to me or my family. But this time, it was a positive rage….a more intentful and productive one, and I dont regret feeling this way.

Now….I’ve been talking to Dave, and his sticking point so to speak, is letting go of the ego. I sent him a link to Alex~’s blog that deals with that in much depth, but I’ve had a thought or two the past hour. Alot of people talk about getting in state. “How do you get in state?”…”can you be in state all the time?” etc etc. A lot of guys get frustrated because they think about getting in state so much, that it only gets them in their head worse than they were before.

That’s how I see Dave’s fight to drop the ego. Dave…I know you’re reading this lol probably at work….but I think you just need to stop worrying about it. The more you think about letting go of the ego, the harder and more difficult its gonna be to do it. It’s counter productive to get analytical and logical about it. It wont happen in one night. You wont walk up the next day and be like “OH! ego is gone…yes!”….and when this ego ever does leave….thinking about it and realizing it will only bring it back. I think you just need to think about progress, which is great btw, and the goals that you want to achieve. Your mindset transformation will gradually get to the place you want. I hope that helps man lol

ANyway…I’m off to bed…goodnight

LR: Put those Divorce Papers to use

Hey posted this on RSDN earlier…and FR about this weekend will come tomorrow night…anyway….

So while I’m going out 3-4 nights a week…I’ve also been messing around with online stuff. I ended up getting the number of a 37 year old ( about 5’3, brunette, decent shape)

We ended up going to a park tonight around 9pm. She knew my intentions before hand as I made myself clear through messages that I wanted a friends with benefits, and no way a girlfriend. I also knew beforehand that because we hadn’t talked that much before the meet up…that I was going to have to build a good amount of comfort between us before any heavy escalation would be involved. On the other hand….I didnt want any escalation at all…so I would have to slowly ease into it.

We meet up, and right off the bat I give her a really big hug, and kiss her on the cheek, very close to her lips. We fluff talk for a few minutes….and grab her hand while we walk. I do this without thinking….not to make a deal out of this…but as if this is a normal thing I do with girls. I felt like grabbing her hand, so I did it…no questions asked and no hesitation. I find out that she got divorced in March, after she found out that her husband cheated on her. Bummer

I’m escalating really well in such a low energy environment. I tease her a little during our convo, and give her THE CLAW as if its just my natural self. I realize now that I’m using words to describe physical escalation with phrases such as “as if” or “as if this is a normal thing to do”. The reason why I say this is becase I’m getting used to getting physical with women I meet right away, so i’m really “doing” rather than it being a natural extension of self expression.

Anyway, I see a park bench next to this pond so I tell her that we’re gonna sit down here. When we sit down…we dont talk as much…we’re just being one with the scenery in front of us and the connection we built in such a small period of time. Normally I would try to fill the silence with useless convo, but I’m learning that silence can be more powerful than words (Thanks Ryan in your blogpost lol). We eventually meet eye to eye, and I go in for the makeout. Its a go. I touch her all over, and I grab the hair at the back of her head (SIDENOTE: I’ve been doing this A LOT in my makeouts lately, and it’s highly effective in being dominant. The milf in this story said later on that she thought it was really manly). So after making out for a while, I tell her “Let’s go to the car”….and start walking there without her acceptance. Leading is key. We go into her car….and GLORY TIMES!

After I finish on her, she searches for a towel or any paper to wipe up the mess. She ends up finding a copy of her divorce papers and cleans up my mess with them. While she does this she says “How appropriate”. PEACE OUT CHODE EX HUSBAND!

After our glory times, we go for another walk in the park to smoke a cigarette. She opens up a lot more to me, and she’s a really cool chick. I end up telling her a lot about the stories of my past, and it seems like we have a lot in common. We walk her back to her car…kiss her goodnight….and agree to meet up at her house later in the week when her kids are visiting her husband.

Things I’ve learned:
I needed to lead her when where we both wanting to go besides the age difference
Being physical isnt hard…and it shouldnt be as complicated as we make it

And most importantly….girls want to be fucked. This woman’s ex husband had cheated on her. I can’t imagine how someone can feel after having that done to them. I can imagine that she felt so low about herself and so unattractive. And when we said our goodbyes, she said “Thank you so much for tonight”. She didnt say it to just say it, but I could truly feel pure sincerity when she said that. I was the first guy shes been with since her divorce. I made her feel more like a woman again tonight…and more attractive. Writing that really puts a smile on my face…because maybe for her…it wasnt just a fuck. Maybe it just one night where she really felt special again. For one night…she could just let go and be happy again. You cant put a price on that.

Cheers
Phred

FR: Married Women Everywhere!

Met up with Dave and Caramel last night. Before I meet up with them…I open a really cute brunette girl on the train seat next to me. I asked her about her Iphone…and we got to talking for a few minutes. Unfortunately, her next stop was right away…and she seemed really disappointed and hesistant that she had to get off. I was just glad that I had the balls to open a really attractive girl without having someone to tell me to do it.

Half an hour later….all 3 of us hit up Plunge. Slightly in my head…but I have a feeling that tonight would be a fun night. I decide to hit up a 4 set of milfs as a warm up set. Walk in saying “Hey I thought you girls looked adorable over here….I just wanted to meet you” or something like that. I’m kinda in my head…and I think they could tell, but talk to me for a few minutes anyway. I find out its one of their birthdays…and we joke around for a little bit. Dave comes in to wing…and goes for the girl who doesnt talk AT ALL lol. Not in a bitchy way though…just as a mega shy way. Anyway….5 minutes later, the set starts to lose steam and we eject.

Dont really do much afterwards….we’re not really feeling Plunge tonight. We all 3 chat for awhile…and Dave ends up opening a 5 or 6 set bachlorette party. All the women are from Long Island….probably 10 mminutes from me…which was something cool to talk about for a while. Dave and Caramel talk to the fiance girl and her sister for a while…while I talk to the 3 other girls. I finally felt warmed up…and fluff talked about Long Island for a little bit. I’m hardcore into one of the married chicks…who is the fiances sister in law. We bullshit about her kids (probably wasnt a good idea in hindsight)….and we just joke around a lot. She asks me a few times about my age…and is really surprised at how young I am. I stay completely unreactive. I think with having a cougar/milf preference…you just hear this way too much. I just dont care anymore…and in the past…I just learned that its just a stupid congruence test anyway. Everything I say at this point is GOLDEN. She laughs at everything I say….and keeps touching my arm. I should have lead her to the bar to isolate her and at least go for the makeout. Being married though kinda fucks me up for that. Its a weird dilemma I suppose…..do I forget about that as maybe hookin up is something she probably wanted to do anyway or do i stick to my morals? Lately…I’ve had this mentality like THIS year would be the time that I finally just dont care what “stops” me from getting with who I want to just doing it.

After awhile…we depart and head all the way over to Sutton Place. Hate it. End of story. I was told that there were a lot of LI girls there….which I didnt mind at first. WOW how I was naive. Now disclaimer: LI girls are not all bad….I’ve met quite a few awesome ones…and it should never stop anyone from trying to meet them. BUT this place was all the quality traits that are bad about these type of girls packed into one venue. Just very stuck up. The only good thing about going there was that I got to meet up with Saad again. Anyone just starting to read this, Saad was my RSD bootcamp insturctor last month. We caught up from the last time we saw each other, and all that stuff. He was really happy to see me…and knew from a couple of FRs/LRs on RSDN that I’ve been improving since bootcamp. He told that at this place, you have to be very direct and aggressive to pull these girls. At this point, I started to get in my head because I realized what I was up against. I’m not that type of guy…YET. I believe deep down that I can be…and I will be….but being in this for a very short amount of time might be a difficult thing for me. I opened maybe 2 sets in there…and completely bombed. I laugh at it now…but I was slightly pist back then. They all came with their chody preppy asshole boyfriends…and we’re just not that type of guy. Thank god.

We soon left Sutton Place…and hit up a few smaller bars. Met up with a few cougars outside of this Irish bar…and properly demonstrated the Shopping Cart Dance :-). I do it for them once and they love it….and they want me to keep doing it. I decline politely to not be sucked into that dancing monkey frame. I chat up with a few of the cougars, who are visiting from North Carolina and Texas. I kino the blonde cougar a lot…and shes really into me. We decide to get out of there at some point to get food…and they were leaving to get back to their hotel. Oh well…I mean I dont think I was gonna get the pull from them.

We also hit up a few other bars before and after the cougars with Achilles and his friend (cant remember his name). I wing a set for Achilles…and was very proud of myself for the short amount of time we were there. I roll up to a really cute brunette girl with an awesome hat…and compliment her on it. Shes slightly receptive…but not feeling it so much. Maybe she thinks Im gonna be just another chode. I’m just trying to occupy the brunette for a little bit, while Achilles talks to his chick. Now the reason I’m proud of this set in particular was not because of kino…but because I realized that I’m getting comfortable with congruence tests. For example, I just previously mentioned that she wasnt very receptive to me. That’s fine. So after the hat compliment, I ask her where she’s from…simple chode question. She gives me a hesitant look and says “…around”. Like the type of look that reads “Ugh…what does this guy want from me?” I’m starting to love these stupid girl responses because I completelty play off of it like I’m oblivious to her shit. I then get really excited but completely sarcastic, and go “wow…I love Around….I havent been there in a few years….blah blah blah”. As soon as I did that, the brunette and even the blonde friend who was spectating for a little start cracking up…and all of a sudden….scenario has changed. No longer just another guy. She comes more interested in me. Unfortunately, we left the bar soon after,…so I cant really reflect on the situation more. I was just happy that I’m becoming more quick witted and less reactive to these tests. Back in the day, I would’ve mentally freaked out for the way she was being….but now I think…how can I turn this around and make it fun? How can I turn her stupid comment into something positive? I’m loving the ping ponginess.

Last bar we go to….I’m tired and slightly drunk at this point. This bar has a lot of Indians in it…but theyre all HOT. I notice a really goregous Indian on the dance floor with her friends…and we make eye contact a few times. I know her from somewhere…but I cant put my finger on it. The next morning…I realize that she was at an accounting seminar I attended like 2 months ago….and I still back then and now didnt have the balls to approach her haha. I really regret not talking to her, but she seemed to be occupied dancing with all her guy and girlfriends. I shouldn’t really make this an issue anymore…because she might not even have a boyfriend. I was pist the next morning….because I knew her from before. It was so perfect to run into her again….and I dropped the ball.

Sunday night I stayed on LI with my sister. We were gonna stay in, but her friend had called and asked me and her to go to a bar with her. Last minute plans ensue and we head out with a few of my childhood friends. Didnt really approach anyone….wasnt the point tonight. My sister has been going through some shit…so I just wanted her to have a great time. And she did :-). We all get bombed. Laughs and good times commence. I end up making out with this kinda chubby girl at the end of the night. Cute face though and awesome personality. The only reason why I post about this night because I realized that with a strong solid frame you can really say anything. I’m talking with the chubbiness for a while…making jokes and getting to know each other. At this point, I’m really drunk (probably made her look better lol)….and convo right before makeout goes like this…

Me: Hey do you have herpes or any other STDs?
Her: hahaha no why would you ask me that?
Me: Shit…It’s just that I really wanted herpes….so I hoping you had them.
Her: haha you’re really crazy
Me: Well if you did have herpes…I would’ve just been like this (grabs head and makes out)

Yeaaaa….I was such a high state that night…I dont really even know why I said all that, but it was two things 1) PURE self amusement 2) emotionally spiked. This was def the weirdest and most hilarious way ive ever transitioned to a makeout…and I loved it. :sigh: why cant i always be like this?

Anyway….I’m going to read Mastery by George Leonard….and sometime during the week, I’ll write my review and opinions of it. Latersssss

FR: The “Austrian” Hits Plunge

Song of the Day: Led Zeppelin “When the Levee Breaks”
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=4-AanPHMbC4

I choose this song especially because things are becoming together. The pieces are slowly and surely coming together. The water that is my game is going to overflow and finally break through the levee. I know what it takes. When I first started going out with Dave and Jason….I could barely keep my attention on the girl and focused more on the “game” I was spitting. While I did get good reactions, I couldnt see them…I was in another world…not on the same wavelength as the chick I was talking to. We didnt click. But by each week….I’m finally seeing little things. Opportunities float away but not without notice….learning the artform of social dynamics…wondering where I went wrong and vow never to make the same mistake.

NYC has been great to me so far. So much diversity. Local girls and foreign girls that dont speak a lick of english. White girls….black girls….asians….indians. Girls from Ireland…England…Brazil….Russia…Austria. Young girls with ADD who seek validation to sexy cougars who come to this place hoping for a confident young man to fuck them (::cough:: ::cough) I look around….and I think…WOW how can you not get better in such a melting pot of pussy if you’re pushing yourself and making things happen? I’ve started the ignition and let the engine warm up for the past few weeks….now I need to floor it…..

Friday Night: Went to Plunge with Dave and Jason. This was one of the best nights I ever had out. EVERYONE was out 2n….Evenstar, Hiro, LP, GoldenCHild, Indeed, and so many other guys. I promised myself last FR that I would approach the very set I saw and BOOM! I certainly did. Approached a two set from Long Island…and the hottest one was very into me (constantly giggling and playing with her hair), and the other one kinda dug me but she was very shy and quiet. I eventually got into my head and ejected. I shrug it off….I was just glad to get the first set of the night over with.

Opening sets came with ease. A problem I had last week was what Dave had said in his blog…that I was good in sets right near me, and got AA from far away sets. I wasn’t going to let that happen, and I didnt. I went into/winged about 10 sets Friday night, and never got blown out. I approached a lot of 9s and 10s that night, which I’m really proud about. These are the types of really goregous girls that I never imagined myself going up to months ago.

The most memorable set of the night was a girl that I had in the palm of my hands….had that window of opportunity….and jumped into too late. It was funny because it happened by accident. This really cute small blonde chick (8) bumped into me while I was talking to Dave and spilt some of her drink on my shirt. I teased her a little and talked to her for a short time. Dave and Evenstar are with me and start talking to the girl. I dont think much of it…and just chill out…looking around and talking to Evenstar. I notice that she looks my way a few times but again, I dont think anything of it. Then I turn to my right and see Dave slowly push her into me. I’m like to myself “Oh god…what is Dave trying to get me into now” (in a positive way ofcourse)….and all of a sudden…I start leading her to the bar! Like I dont know what I did….I just told her that I’m getting a drink and that shes coming with me. I didnt ask. I just wish it wasnt so crowded because we got broken up a few times. When I eventually reunite with her…me and her are fluff talking and notice that shes REALLY close to me and talking by my lips. I know what she wants. I know what I should do…but I hesitant and get stuck in my head. Damnit lol. She eventually departs and I blew yet another opportunity. Last week with the cougar. This has been driving my fury…letting things slip away like this. It’s lessons learned but i crave the potential glory as well. It seems like this opportunities are also mind fucks. Like…I’m not used to having really really attractive girls dig me. Even when I had my gf…I still never thought I deserved her. It feels awesome that this is happening to me…but its also like WTF??? HOW is this happening? Maybe someone can give me some feedback/advice on how to overcome my “unworthiness” for hot ass bitches like these?

Saturday: The worse of the two nights but still able to gain lessons and value out of it. I was pretty stuck in my head from the beginning of the night. I was tired….didnt approach the very first set I saw…and I kept reading/talking about game all day. THIS IS A BIG NO NO FOR ME FOR NOW ON! I need to disassociate myself with the game as much as possible the night I go out sarging, or else I think too much…thus in my head.

The really good thing that came out of Saturday was using kino more. For example, I jump into a 3 set with Dave and another guy…and start chatting and flirting with one of the really cute ones in the group. When I find out from her that theyre leaving tomorrow to go back to Cali, I joke around that she needs to go crazy…get drunk…and jump on the bar. When she says that she does that sober….I claw her and start leading her to the bar….and she loves me for my escalation. Unfortunately…theyre leaving to go to another bar…but I’m glad I did what I did.

I end up talking with Dave and Jason for most of the night…I’m just not feeling it 2n. I’m so tired from the night before and from the hard workout. But I’m glad I went out. I met this really cute British Indian girl who I really liked…and she was hooked and laughing at what I said. Her friend also enjoyed my prescense. Eventually….like always…the set starts to fizzle…and I can tell that she wanted me to take charge instead of entertaining them for the time being. I can see it in her eyes. It’s too bad also…because I was really into her…and she seems fuckin cool as hell.

Another set inside the bar had a cute blonde girl (7.5) walk by me and Dave. Dave says to open so I do. As she walks by…I tap her on the shoulder and tell her that I thought she was really cute so I wanted to say Hi. As I do this, I grab her hand and pull her hand near my cock as I say this into her ear like Nathan taught us at SC. She smiled and kept walking, but I can tell her that she was kinda into it.

Dave also opens a 2 set of Italian girls…and I decide to wing him. I talk to this really smokin Italian girl….WHO DOESNT SPEAK ENGLISH AT ALL! Holy fuck….I’ve run into this about 5 times in the past 3 weeks. She smiles and again, seems into me…but the communication barrier is there…and me being inexperienced in this area fucks with my head. I know now that when this happens, my intent and non verbal communications have to go WAYYYYY up! Because we dont speak the same language…I cant just tell her shes cute and go from there. She has to FEEL the sexual intent…not hear it.

As the night goes on…I get super tired to the point where I opened a set and just had no idea what I was saying. Not in an illogical funny Alex~ way, but in a “my brain is taking a massive dump” way. For the last set of the night, Dave suggests pretending that I’m from Austria and cant speak English…so he has to be my translator. He opens up a fuckin cutie (9)…and proceeds to tell her that I dont speak English and that I wanted to meet her. I try my best to be dumbfounded and confused while speaking another language….while Dave just makes up crazy shit. She eventually leaves….but we fuckin loved it. I did something way out of my comfort zone…and something completely self assuming. It felt so good.

Conclusion: Each week is getting better and better. This upcoming week….me and Dave are going for the Butterfly Effect….constant approaching and socializing for the first 20 minutes of the night in order to keep the awesome social vibe for the rest of the night. Dave has been getting makeouts…and this game is constantly getting better and better each night we go out. Jason left Plunge with a cougar (jealous!) on Friday and almost got the lay. As for me…Escalation is going to be the focus when I go out for now on. This is one of the key factors that is lacking in my game, and its the missing link that will make my sets potentially turn into RESULTS.

FR: Lessons Learned

Song of the Day: Sublime “The Wrong Way”
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=hBYjTyXXeOs

Due to Dave’s boredom at work and my stupidity for sleeping in tonight, it is without furthur ado that I post my field report from last Friday.

Me, Dave, and Jason meet up out front of Plunge. This is the first time that I ever needed girls to go into a place, but I wasn’t going to let that affect my state. I was excited to see what the night would bring, and the interesting people I’d meet. So I walk up to a 2 set of really pretty latina girls, and get them to walk in with us.

I felt a bit stifled when I got there. I think that I’m gonna have to follow Tim’s advice, and approach the first girl I see. It might blow up, it might not….but getting the first approach out of the way, and starting things off right is going to push me in the right direction. Usually I’ve been hanging outside for awhile having a cigarette…which is going to make approaching a set that much harder. Also I’m going to have to approach MORE sets. Instead of approaching a set…walking back to my friends…hanging out, and then going to find another one…I should just be on the outlook always.

Friday night I didnt open many sets. I was very much in my head that night for no reason. I cant come up with one, but I guess everyone has their good and bad nights.

Memorable sets include me approaching a 2 set of girls, one from Brazil and London. Maybe this is common for NYC, but whats up with all the Brazilian girls? Just seems kinda random to me. Anyway, things went pretty well with them for awhile…and they kept trying to tool me and trying to suck me into their frame for no reason. I can’t make out why they would. Maybe because they were with their brothers? I opened them up directly telling them that they were really cute, so maybe it was a congruence test? The only cool thing that came out of the set was that I successfully defended myself from AMOGs. I introduced myself to the two brothers, and were very cool with them, but they kept trying to tool me. They said that they wanted to name me Twinkletoes or something like that….but I looked at them with a weird look, and said “what the fuck does that even mean” with a smile, and ignore them for the rest of the set. And they backed off! Later on I realized what I did…and on bootcamp this was a problem for me. There would be sets that when the guy friend came in, I tried to befriend him too much, so that by the end of the set, I would be sucked into the girl and guy’s frame. I’m proud of myself for that one.

Another set was a very hot 2 set of cougars. Man…this one haunted me for the rest of the night. I approach them and start bullshitting with them…finding out where theyre from…and I find out that theyre sister in laws. Okay…so one of them is married but I dont think much of it. One of them was a really cute dirty blonde milf who was my target originally, and the other one was a really hot brunette cougar. The brunette one is more receptive to me but I dont think much of it because I like the other one. So we talk for awhile, and I get them hooked. A few minutes later, the blonde girl tells me that shes gonna go get a drink at the bar. I automatically think that she’s ejecting and that was the end of it. So I naturally say that I’m going to go back to my friends anyway and it was great meeting them. But the thing was that the hot brunette never left to go with her. I thought they were both gonna leave me…and when I was walking away…I looked back at them. The blonde one gave the brunette a look like “what the fuck did he just do? what an idiot”. FUCKKKKKKK I was so pist. I didnt realize until then that the blonde mustve been the married one, and she was going away for a while, so I could isolate the brunette. Man…just typing this still annoys the fuck out of me. The two of set came into my area again about a few minutes later….I’m guessing to give me another opportunity to redeem myself, but it was over. My state dropped like a steaming shit.

Since bootcamp, I’ve approached two sets of cougars and I’ve noticed that unlike younger girls….theyre not all about cockblocks, and petty bullshit that most girls pull. They will openly and genuinely help each other out to get laid. If you read a past FR of mine (FR: Making progress and LIVE trannies)….I approached a 4 set of cougars, and none of them gave me shit (except the bday girl…but I got her into me after passing her test), as they wanted their birthday girlfriend to get laid. Just like this blonde milf wanted her sister in law to get laid. They wont make a big deal about things. They know what they want, and they’re not all about games and bullshit. She easily set me up to ravish her sister in law, and I was too oblivious to realize it.

By the end of this set I was miserable. I dont like making ridiculously obvious mistakes but with more field experience, I will pick up more on this. It’s just lessons learned. I opened a set or two here and there, but it was just over at this point. I was about to leave when Dave pulls me into a 2 set with Brazilian blondes, and tells me about her tattoo. For some reason, I get rejuvenated and end up talking to this girl for about half an hour, maybe more. She was def a 9 in my opinion, and I really had a great time talking to her. Her name is Maglia. Speaking of her, I dropped her a text tonight, and she ended up calling me and chatting for about 5 minutes. Anyway….we roleplayed as a married couple and then divorced. I tease her a lot, but I also get to know her really well. Turns out, she was previously engaged even though shes only 24. I got her laughing a lot, and she is really receptive to me. Dave helps me out in the set by taking wedding pics of her. Dave…get those pics up already! haha. Anyway, after talking for awhile, she said “well I think you should get my number, what do you think?” OFCOURSE! This was the first time I was number closed by a really hot girl, and it was a bit of a mindfuck for me. BTW..the whole time we’re talking….we were very close to each other….and I tried to kino her anytime I could. Anyway….I ended up leaving her around 1:30 to go home.

Although it was a “bad night” state wise….I did have good moments as well as some horrible moments (cougarssssss)…..but it’s part of the process and I accept that. I’m lucky to learn from my mistakes, and I cant wait until a few months from now…because with going out with Dave and Jason more…we’re gonna become a really sweet combo.

Anyway….I’ll be going out tomorrow. I was gonna stay on the island, but I think I should hit up the city to make up for tonight.

Fred

FR: Pre Birthday Night 1 (Dance Floor Game Epihanies)

I was originally supposed to go out with Dave tonight, but my friend whose leaving for college on Tues wanted to hit a club and buy me some birthday drinks before he went away. This kid is one of my best friends ever, and although he doesnt game or know how to at all, he is a shit load of fun to go out with anyway. I end up going out with his younger brother whose awesome as well (exact replica of McLovin…I kid you not), and two other friends of mine. No girls along with us this week but we bring the goods anyway.

This place is pretty dead when we first get there, so we hang out at the bar. The bartender who I’m in LOVE with (why i didnt get her number yet is beyond me) gives us free shots of some blue shit that no one what it was. I decide to call it Cookie Monster shots for the rest of the night.

The dance floor is DEAD and there are groups of girls just hovering around the floor. We start to get bored and out of state from the dead vibe so me and my friend say FUCK IT…and all five of us just go in the middle of the dance floor and start going crazy, having the time of our lives. This gets the girls excited and they end up joining us. This was really cool for me just because I would’ve never had the balls to start up that shit awhile ago, but I wanted to have a great time with my friends before they leave for school, so we brought the party.

My dance game is getting pretty tight lately. I face the facts like a man…i LOVE to dance. I could be out there by myself or with a group of people…I feel the music flow through me and I’m in my own little world. I’m having fun, plus dancing makes me feel sexual. I’m not being a vulture like so many guys have been doing. I’m not being creepy. I’m not being needy. I’m just one with the music, and I’m a really good dancer. And girls see this. I had at least 5 instances of girls eye fuckin the SHIT out of me on the floor because they love how I sexually express myself out there. I sometimes even picture me having awesome sensual sex with a hot girl to feel it. Whatever I feel, they will feel (Alex~)

Dance floor game is becoming obvious to me now. My RAS on the floor is getting ridiculous. I see right away whether a guy approaching is going to be accepted or rejected. I can see when a girl isnt interested in the guy shes dancing with, but instead looking at me like she wants a piece. I notice how girls almost indirectly game ME. I’ll see them glance at me from a distance, and slowly dance closer to me to try to make it seem like they didnt mean to. They like my friends too because we’ll all being non needy and having a great time….I just wish they could be aggressive. Oh well lol

So I danced with a few hot girls, and it felt really natural. I even got a makeout with one of them. The girl was a little chunky but with a REALLY cute face. She dances with her ass in my crotch for a while…I get bored and turn her around. I’m dancing very sexually with her as if I’m sensually making love to her and we came nose to nose. I grab her by the back of the head and make out with her.

Dance floor game brings out my best combo of Woo and Intent. I’m having a shit load of fun with my friends and being in the moment (wooo), but I’m also dancing with intent. I dont come to them….they see how I’m projecting myself through my expressions, and they become attracted to it.

I was gonna write another article about some insights I had while chatting it up with my trainer at the gym tonight, but I felt like this was more important to post about. I’ll write about it tomorrow.

FR: Making progress and LIVE Trannies

Song of the Day: Purple Haze by Jimi Hendrix
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=cnFSaqFzSO8&feature=related

I feel like even from a weeks time that I’m improving a lot. Didnt pull…Didnt make out…but I did get two numbers. There are still things to improve on, but I’m opening up, and plowing through little by little.

Anyway…met up with Warlock and Raven tonight at Plunge. I’m starting to like this place even though its crowded as hell. Adapt to the environment. I also got a chance to meet some other guys in the community tonight like Love Pirate, The Judge, L Prince, and a few others that I cant recall right now. Everyone seems to be really chill and they bring out positive vibes in their own unique ways. I’m looking forward to meeting up with them again.

I approached close to 10 sets tonight, and I really got blown out two or three times. The first one was a 3 set outside that I quickly was thrown into without having 100% belief…which resulted in the alpha girl dragging her two friends away. POOF gahnnnnn. The other blow outs were a 3 set of asians. I think I came in with too much high energy, when they clearly were waiting to get to the bar not having fun. It’s better to go to their level or slightly higher, but I was like WOOO! STRONGGGG. The last blow out with a girl walking past me when we were smoking outside. I tried to open with a breaking for rapport tone by saying “hey! who are you?!”. The only problem was that I think I came in too strong, instead of being playfully dominant. It was too drill sargant if that makes any sense. The girl gets offended, and I try to play it off as a joke, but she wasn’t having any of it. Lesson Learned….if I’m going to be breaking for rapport, its best not to be too crazy with it.

Some other sets that I remember from last night include…

1. I open this really cute Spanish chick in the corner while her friend was talking to another guy. I come in with a playful smile…pull her in a little and say in her ear “Hey, I thought you were really cute, so I really wanted to come over and meet you”. She instantly lights up, and she becomes really into me from there. I’m clawing her at points to talk into her ear. In reality, the noise is too much for me to hear well…so if I escalate this way…it’s a good excuse to get close. She’s loving me the whole time…and I really dont remember what I was saying. I think she has a bf, but the only reason why I knew is because her friend made an indirect joke about it when I told her that this girl is my new girlfriend. Whatever…I stay unreactive and keep chatting her up. Eventually, I start to get into my head to search for things to say, and I eject. I told her that I need to go to the bathroom, and that I’ll see her later on in the night. I never end up seeing her again. SHIT. why did I eject?! haha I regretted this for a while, because with more escalation and dominance, and she would’ve been done for at least a make out. And she was a cute and really sweet girl, which is perfectly my type. Next time…I stay in there until they leave, and I push the interaction as far as I can.

2. I spot a 4 set of blond COUGARS!~!~! in the bar area. For those who dont know….I ❤ me some cougs. I roll in there with confidence (I’m in pretty high state at this point)…and tell them that they look really cute, and I had to come over and meet them. There are very receptive to me right away, and I find out that it’s one of the cougars birthdays. She is giving me shit a little by not telling me her name, and stuff but I really stay unreactive to her, and instead of getting reactive….I claw her in and say to the group “Wow…I really love this one….I cant get over how adorable she is”. I turn her negativity into a positive. All of a sudden, things change. The fuck me eyes come out, and its blantant that I pass whatever test she was giving me. I claw her in a few times, and shes really into my kino. They laugh when I tell them that I’m gonna be 23. I stay unreactive, but I’m not really sure if thats a congruence test or they just love that I’m confident around them. Maybe someone reading this can give me some insight. Anyway, I end up ejecting again (WHY?!?!?!) and I wish I hadn’t because Raven was about to wing my set for me. FUCK! That could’ve been perfect for me to isolate the birthday cougar. My bad man haha. and WHY I ejected prematurely is beyond me. I guess I started to get inside my head again….but she was DTF for sure…and I blew it. Once again…lesson learned. Just realized that I applied Natural Tim’s ping pong theory without realizing it. She was giving me shit and instead of trying to be witty…I stay unreactive and shoot her back with my positive confident energy.

3. Warlock ends up chatting this really cute Asian girl named Ana. She originally bums a cigarette off me but I end up talking to a community guy while Warlock chats up the asian. I eventually come into the set and he leaves me so I can chat her up. Thanks man ;-). I particuarly liked this set a lot because it was the first time in a while since joining the community that I REALLY was interested in talking to a girl…instead of doing it for my game. We clicked right away….with a similiar sense of humor..same age…a lot of the same commonalities and values. We eventually exchange numbers and she tells me that next time I’m in the city that we should go for coffee. So yea…I’ll see how true that holds up. I got some kino in but I definately could have turned it up a notch easily, as she was really into me.

Anyway…i end up leaving around 1:30 to catch the train home…and on the way out I spot 5 trannies walking into the club. WOW…this was the first time I saw trannies in real life, and I was just amazed at how good looking they actually were….no homo haha. From a distance they looked like models until I hear their deep voice and adams apples haha. It was just a funny experience…not necessarily one that I want to revisit again soon lol.

I had a great time with the guys tonight, and I’m really starting to get comfortable in cold approaching. I want to keep the momentum going from bootcamp so it’s imperative to keep going out constantly to improve. Warlock had a couple of really good sets last night…and he def seems to be making a lot of progress since superconference. If you’re reading this man, I love going out with you guys….It’s only gonna get better from here. I’m slowly using more and more kino…and I really need to push my sets as hard as I possibly can. Fuck it if I get blown out. The harder I push past my boundaries, the better I’m going to get.

I’ll be writing again soon. peace

Sat Night with Warlock…and Misc. stuff

Whats up to anyone reading this? I’ve been meaning to update, but I dont have internet at my job anymore…so trying to find time to write is hard.

Saturday it hit the big city to meet up with Warlock and his buddy, Raven at Plunge. It was good seeing Dave again since superconference….with both of us changing since the last time we saw each other. He’s gained more confidence and happiness (or so I think? lol help me out dave…give me a better insight), and I’ve just came off of a grueling bootcamp a few weeks back. I met Raven that night, and he seems like a very chill and fun guy, hopefully I’ll see him again soon.

Dave pushed me into sets, and I’m glad he did. Although I’ve gained more confidence in opening sets…I still need that little push from a buddy to get past the rest of the AA i go through. Eventually the AA will be gone.

I approached a little more than 5 sets that night. Nothing sarge-irific, but considering I wasnt there long anyway, I was happy about that. It was also good to have Dave there because I tend to get lost in the set. What I mean is that I’m so much concentrating on the set and the work of my game, that I dont see how to girl reacts or the attraction I get. Appearantly, I did get alot of initial attraction from girls until the sets fizzled out (damn me for not escalating/dominating lol). So it was good to have an outside perspective of how my game is while in set. NOW….this sounds bad. I realize that ONE- I’m being reactive. Meaningggg that I’m SOOO concentrated on getting the right reaction that I’m not concentrated on the girl. TWO- I’m missing out on her feminine energy. Her tits and ass. Her amazing hair. Her beauty and personality. THATS what I should do. To feed off her sexual energy. This will come in time….and making a conscious effort to do so will make me pimper by the day lol This was also a problem during bootcamp as well. Saad told me that on numerous occasions, I had girls that were really into me, playing with their hair and shit…but I was so concentrated on the set going well that I didnt pick up on this. This will change my friends.

I realize that going into the city at least once a week is going to improve my game big time. Dont get me wrong…Long island bars have a LOT of hot chicks, but NYC is a different atmosphere. You have to dress really well…its classier….and its a less intense environment. Girls are sitting down with their crew at expensive tables. I love it there…and the girls are tougher to game. Getting exposure to different surroundings will make my game better.

so thats that. In other news in Fredamania…I realized tonight going to the gym that its been almost 3 years since I’ve been in love. It kinda made me sad. I’ve only been in love once. She broke my heart….and I’m sure I wrote about this in a previous post so I wont go much into it. I got into this game to get amazing with women, and to become that sex worthy guy. I still do. But I would ultimately want to love someone again. This time it’ll be different. I wont be in love to fill up the emptiness inside me. I will be offering my girl with an amazing world full of value and caring.

Anyway….PINEAPPLE EXPRESS TONIGHT! Thurs-Fri-Sat will be intense though. I will push myself through the unknown…and I wont always have a friend to push me into it. Wish me luck lolol

Phred

LR: Old Friends

I’ve known this chick for a few years now. Backstory: Years ago, one of my part time jobs was working at a movie theater. I became good friends with the manager, who was good friends with the owner’s daughter. So I’ve known her (owners daughter) for a few years but nothing ever happened between us. There was flirting, but I never took it to the next level. My manager friend had a huge crush on her, even though he didnt stand a chance. Even though she wanted me, I decided no-go because of my friend.

Anyway…for a good year or so later, we stopped talking. Our social circle kinda went its own ways, so there was never problems between me and her. Fast forward to a week or so ago, we begin to text each other again, and agree to hang out soon.

So tonight, I decide to get together with her. She ended up buying a new car a few weeks ago, so I told her to come pick me up so I can get a ride in the new wheels, and we’ll take it from there.

She arrives at my house around 9:30. When I get out of the house, she comes out of my car and asks me how I like the car. I claw her immeadiately and compliment the car, and to tell her how cute she looks tonight.

We end up driving for a good hour, just vibing the fuck out. Remencising about the fun times we had years ago, and how our lives are now, and where theyre going. We’re having a great time…I’m making her laugh a lot with my dry humor (no try hardness). I’m teasing her…and dropping little sexual comments here and there. I wanna call them sexual landmines. Eventually I bring up the fact that back in the day, I thought she was really sexy (still do), and that I really wanted something with us to happen, but I was a dipshit for caring what the friend thought. She agreed also that she wanted me to make a move badly, and that she still thought I was cute. It’s on…..

So I end up making her drive to a secluded place. Dont ask, just tell her to. It’s a really popular bay area with a golf course and all, but at night…no one is around and its dark. I end up finding a pair of handcuffs in her middle console (she works in security), and I tell her that I’m gonna use these on her one day. She laughs and slightly agrees…almost as if she didnt expect me to say that. Sexual intent. Emotional spike.

So she parks….and there’s is a few seconds awkward silence…as if someone is waiting for something to happen. So I say “come here”…grab the back of her head, and makeout with her. She says she feels uncomfortable messing around in a car, and asks me if theres anyplace nearby to go. I tell her that we could drive to a nearby motel, but that I dont have enough money on me. She says she def doesnt mind paying for the room, but theres no way she can mess around in a car. I could’ve been unreactive and just forced the situation at hand to go down, but in this case, it would really ruin the vibe. I want her to feel comfortable, and considering that shes DTF anyway, I might as well wait for a motel room…

10 minutes later…..drive to the motel…..glory ensues.

I throw her on the bed and dominate the hell out of her. She goes crazy for this, and even says shit like “I’m such a bad girl, baby”. I pull her hair and take my other hand and wrap it around her neck. She loves every bit of it. Afterwards, she says that no one has ever been like that to her before.

After we finish….we just chill for a while….having a deep conservation. It was awesome to be able to talk to someone on that level and not feel like I’m going over their head. Anyway, we leave….she drops me home…and I promise to pay for the room for the next round.

Being sexual and dominant is fun. I’m still getting used to it, and at times, I feel weird doing it….but it’s becoming fun as hell. My goal is to just make a conscious effort to be a sexual and dominant guy….even if it comes off creepy, because eventually it will just become a part of me and wont be so creepy.

Anyway…I’m off to bed. Wasn’t any major epihanies, but I thought I should post this to show myself how I’m progressing since bootcamp.