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Update long Overdue

Posted by fredfierce on October 15, 2008

Hey whats up to anyone reading this (the very very few)….I just got back from an awesome workout, and I figured I would blog about whats been going on in my life and in my game. It’s been long overdue….

I havent updated in a few weeks. I thought that posting FRs/LRs was putting too much pressure on myself when I went out. Whether it was because I’m trying to impress people reading this or some other reason, but for this period in my game, it has had a negative impact in my game. Sicne I stopped blogging, I’ve been more relaxed when I go out, even if some AA creeps back.

The past few weeks have been a stressful time in my life. I feel like its a test against my manhood…whether or not I can take the pressure of life and keep plowing through it. I’ve been studying a lot for my CPA exam….to the point where I actually stayed in last weekend to catch up. With studying, I also am working 40 hrs a week, going out on weekends to improve my skills with women, while trying to maintain a strong relationship with my family and with my friends back in town. The studying and work hasnt been SO MUCH of a problem for me. I find time to go out on weekends despite studying for hours.

The hardest part of this whole transformation journey has been staying true to my friends at home. Fortunately, I dont have a problem of having my friends feeling threatened by my progress. We dont have a structured hierarchy of friendship in that sense. But, since 3 months ago, I’ve distance myself from them. I go out to the city now with my wings…and although I am so grateful to go out with great guys on the weekends…I feel guilty for ditching my noncommunity friends when events occur, and when they want to hang out. I try my hardest to keep them around…to keep them in my life…but slowly…they are fading away. I dont hear from them as much anymore. I’m torn between staying with the people in my past…and continuing on with my journey alone. I know I have to march forward…I feel like this what I was meant to do and to be. But I still value my friendships from the past…and eventually…it will be one or the other.

I write this because I basically lost one of my true best friends. To really make a long story short…I dont like this girlfriend and dont want her in my life. I’ve known her for 5 years…and I truly believe she is a horrible person. The final straw came in June at a party. Me and his gf were talking like friends, when she started to go off about how much she “wanted to fuck me” and that “if we were single….she would jump me”. With an accumulation of shit she has done to people with the end being with this confession, I decided that instead of telling my friend what happened…I decided to not be around them anymore (they hang out ALL THE TIME so guy time would not be an option). People reading this might disagree with me….that I should’ve told my friend. I’ve contemplated this all summer, and I could not get myself to do that. This girl is his world, and my friend is her world. Breaking this apart would kill me inside….and make me feel like a horrible person.

So after months and months of not talking….my friend decides to message me on facebook to clear the shit that happened and to move past it. In return, I told him that I dont want to hang out with his girlfriend anymore and that I dont appreciate what she does to people. In return, he told me that they’re eventually going to get married, and that he doesnt think he can be friends with someone who cant be friends with her.

To be honest with you, I dont know what I did was the right decision. I believe that as a man, I need to know my values and my morals. And also as a man, I need to stay true to those things and to my core…and keeping her out of my life stayed true to what I believe and value. Unfortunately, I lost one of my best friends because of that.

Did I make the right decision? I believe that as a person whose growing into his own…on this journey…I need to cut out the negativity and the people who are going to hold me down. She was the biggest weight off my shoulders. My friend was a casulty because of the situation. I think for once in my life, I need to think about whats good for me….and not whats good for everyone else. I need to be true to my core…to not put myself in situations that does not agree with me.

And is anyone also going through the dilemma of losing or distancing from non community friends? If you have advice…let me know.

Anyway….next week is my post-3 months write up on my progress since July bootcamp. I’m going to write it up next week and probably post it here for people to read.

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FR: Bad night and good night

Posted by fredfierce on September 18, 2008

Went out Friday and Saturday with the usuals…

Friday: Friday wasn’t much of a productive night. I only really open up a few sets in the night. The first set I walk up to two blondes, fairly good looking, and just try to introduce myself, but stumble all over my words. Wow….I lost it before I could get the set going. Other than that, I open a few sets here and there with not much enthusiasm put into it or thought. Not thought as in, inside your head; no thought as in my brain doesnt want to come up with anything lol. Just completely stifled/brain dead the whole night.

I’m coming up with a couple of things to make sure this doesnt happen again. I started to exercise regularly again. I have a trainer I see a few times a week, but I’ve begun to do an hour of hard cardio on the other days of the week. I think doing all this will not only keep up my energy level and testosterone levels, but it’ll also keep me out of that logical side that runs through me all week doing accounting. I’ve also decided to talk with friends on the phone on the train ride over. I want to also either talk to people on the subway/talk to the taxi driver on my way to the venue. Talking up a storm before I hit the venue will start up the butterfly effect way before I actually get to the bar. Not being talkative the whole day, and then hitting up a high energy environment and to expect to just open up sets is very very difficult to do. All week, I work in a very logical environment, and getting out of that is difficult to do. Obviously I wont be quitting my job anytime soon, so I’ll have to take alternate steps to snap out of that. I’ll keep you updated in future FRs.

Saturday: Complete 180 from Friday night as far as being social and unstifled. On the train ride to the city, I saw a friend that I hadnt seen in months so it was great catching up with her. It kept me in the talkative mode, and no longer seclusive ipod mode haha.

Me and Dave get to plunge, and I spot an older woman standing by herself. I thought she was cute so I took the initiative to approach. I open her direct right off the bat….but her husband is here and shes not so interested. Not a big deal….I let it roll off my shoulder, and I fluff talk with her for a while. I eject, and go back to Dave where we talk, and greet other guys there like The Judge, Distant Light, Adonis, Hiro, etc. Practically all the RSD and NYS guys are out tonight, which is cool.

I pop open a few sets here and there, not amounted much of anything besides a short stent of attraction, followed by fizzleness. My boy Dave gets two k closes that night. HELL YEA BUDDY! I cant wait for Dave to pull regularly. I think he will start doing this sooner than you think. He wants it badly….and he’s drastically getting better each week. Plus he put a deposit down for a future RSD bootcamp with Jeffy. Oh man…I’m so excited for him.

I saw a couple of cute Asian girls from a distance…I notice that two of the girls are being gamed by some PUA, and it looks on. Then I see the third Asian chillen by herself, so I figure I should make her night. I open up by introducing myself, and find out that…SHE DOESNT SPEAK ANY ENGLISH!!! Like maybe just Hi, and her name,….but that’s it. Wow…I hate this already. But she seems interested. Even though we’re not on the same conscious communication level….there’s a little bit of spark. I make up nonsense for a while, and make her laugh. I’m kinoing her a lot….I’m clawing her a lot…and taking pictures with her…having a great time. I realize that her drink is finished….so I lead her to the bar to buy another one for her. I normally dont buy girls drink…but she was really nice and genuine, and I thought we had something going on. I do this to get the girl…I do this because thats what I felt like doing. I grab her hand, and lead her to the bar….and after lead her to a secluded part of the bar. I feel like its on…and I go for the k close, only to get rejected. She gets all surprised and just says “I’m Japanese”….which I really dont know what to make of that. She is super shy, but she sticks around for a little bit longer. She later leaves to find her friends. I wish the k close would’ve went down because her friends were really cheering for us to get something going. Oh well….I kinoed, I lead, I self amused….did a lot of things right…just sometimes its not there. We move on…

During the night, me and Dave end up talking to a pair of Australian women. I made the mistake of trying for rapport…and seeking value…instead of self amusing and just being chill. I kinoed which is good, but I felt needy….like I needed to set to work out. I shouldnt’ve been like this, but I learn from my mistakes.

By the bar, I open up a black chick by the pool window. I tell her that me and her are gonna grab something large…break the window…and go skinny dipping. She loves me right away…laughing her ass off, and kinoing me hard. We joke around for a while….as shes from Bed Stey and I’m from the suburbs, so we roleplay as a couple, which was really funny. I find out that she’s there meeting potential clients….so although I’m kinoing a lot…I know that a kiss or pull isnt going to be so obtainable. I should’ve gotten the number, but I never seem to think of that while in set, unless the girl says something about it. I should make of a note to do that.

I walk outside to see Dave and Distant Light talking it up to a 3 set. I notice one of the girls chillen by herself not engaged in the conservations, so I make it a point to jump in and start something. I forget her name….but shes a lawyer from Brazil. Shes pretty cute, and def my type. I joke around with her….and self amuse myself by convincing her that I got arrested last week for streaking on my block, and that she can be my lawyer. She actually believes me…but I think it’s because she doesnt get my humor. I’m really sarcastic…and maybe its me…but I feel like it doesnt go over as well in foreign sets than with American girls. My friends end up leaving the set to look for mo hotties. Her two friends say that they’re going to the bathroom…and ask if she wants to come. She says no….which is a very good sign for me. We fluff talk for a while, getting to know each other, and I fizzle the set out. My problem is transitioning to a kiss…it seems so awkward in my head…and it really isnt. Anyone reading this, just to give me some advice on this. So after awhile, I see that look on her face…its the FRED PUSSY LOOK! Meaning…shes disappointed because shes given me the opportunity to lead her to that next level…and I dont step up to the plate. Ahhhh I cant count how many times I’ve seen that look in the past 2 months. I need to learn and apply the saying “Get blown or blow it up”….by some PUA. I should either be leading to the pull or getting blown out of set. It’s a tough thing to apply, but all the great guys in this game have done it, and I will try as well.

Over the night, I open up a few other quick sets that I dont really remember much. After awhile, I started to get burnt out and hungry, and end up talking to Dave, DL, and other guys for awhile. It’s great seeing these guys….as we all kinda have an unspoken bond with each other. It’s like we know we’ll all there to improve our lives…and we have the same goals and pursuits….and we’re not there to purposely fuck each other over.

Me and Dave end the night with an awesome meal at a nearby diner. On the elevator ride down, we end up talking to 2 cute girls..and invite them out with us to get something to eat. They say they have to visit there friend bartending, but they seem to be hesitant and upset to leave. I say that we’ll stop by later to free drinks from there, and they tell us to come by. We forget….Shit lol

All in all…Satuday WAY better than Friday. Less in my head, and the talking with people way before the club/bar seems to be successful so far. I’ll have to try it out a few more times to see if it works for sure.

I’ll leave you with this….

Glory times await us….

See you next week

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FR: Backstreets Back ALRIGHT!

Posted by fredfierce on September 12, 2008

Saturday started with an uplifting phone call from Dave, after feeling bummed out the past couple of days. Part of it had to do with the stress of work the past week…part of it was my chodey mindset trying to shadow my confidence. Dave explained something that Ozzie said…”Everyone at the club has the same value”. A girl can be hot as hell and have high value at first, but once you get to know her, she may have bad breath or work at Dennys. I forgot about this concept, and it definitely made me feel better hearing it again.

At night, I meet up with Dave and Raven. We hit up Park at first and its dead. Okay. Then we hit up Plunge. It’s kinda dead due to the bad weather, but I do pop open a few sets to get my state up. I’m just trying to approach right off the bat. I’m still at the point where I wont approach every set I want to. I see a lot of cougars at Plunge tonight, and just stifle up and dont approach them. I just have to step up and do it.

Then we hit up a couple of other places in the meatpacking district. We hit up Gaslight District. VERY CROWDED! I accidentially open up a set because I thought they said something to me when they didnt, so I went to approach. Right off the bat they tooled me…trying to make fun of my long hair, as if I really give a shit. I can just tell that they’re sucky people to be around. Everyone is having a great time, talking with each other, and these two girls are just sitting there thinking theyre high and mighty. I’m pist that I ended up talking to them. I stay unreactive, and just kinda stop talking to them because I didnt really plan to in the first place. They try to reopen me again, and I just dont really care at that point. Dave ends up chatting with them for a few minutes. I still hear whats said, and all of a sudden, I see the brunette kinda slap Dave. At first, I thought she was doing that for no reason but to be a bitch, but I later found out that Dave got a zinger on her, so PROPZ!!! lol We get tired of Gaslight, and walk to Park.

We go back to Park again, and NOW its poppin. I open a few sets that aren’t memorable. The only thing I can really note is that my unreactiveness is getting a lot better lately. I just dont let stupid girly comments bother me. I dont see it as them dissing me…I just see it as a unconscious test screening….to see if im legit or not. And even when they do something I dont care for…I just say something like “jeez youre weird” and go right back to the convo at hand. I’m trying to implement Tim’s net theory into action. Before we leave, I see a really cute Asian girl texting her friends. I say to myself “I want that” so I go over to her and open by saying “I thought she was cute, so I had to come over and meet her…I’m Fred”. She seems pretty receptive to this, but also says she just got there and she is looking for her friends. I dont think I did anything wrong….she may have just been in a different mindset.

After a little while, we hit up Plunge again. Theres a ton of people there now that the rain has cleared. Matt from Superconference is at Plunge again, and always great to see him when he comes out. He’s really progressed after coming back from Europe for the summer…as he gets MAJOR attraction and hooking in literally any set he walks into. Good shit.

I smoke a cigarette outside talking to Dave as he feels stifled the whole night. I try to encourage him the whole night, with me pushing him into sets to pump his state up, which kinda works. All of a sudden, he opens up a HOT asian with great tits. Shes with her friend….and the next thing you know, I start flirting with the asian. Sorry Dave….I didnt even mean that lol. Something snaps in me though. I really want this girl…and I claw her and I’m all over here. She’s digging me but shes pretty drunk at that point. I’m just talking jibberish, making her laugh, and I feel like I get something out of her, whether a makeout or pull. But then, I get in my head. Doh. I pull back because I realize how close I am to kissing that hot ass asian. Soon after that, her and her friend leave.

I’M PISTTT!!!! I was so close, and couldn’t believe that I let a girl like her pass me by. I FELT THE FURY! I was literally shaking because I was mad at myself. The intent was full throttle, as I wanted to go back and get what I had deserved. I go walking around and find her again inside. I plow through, and claw her immediately…and start flirting with her. We joke around again and we’re very close AGAIN…and i pull back AGAIN! AHHHH!!! She then grabs her guy friend, and the 3 of them eject.

For those 5 minutes of fury, I felt like The Hulk. I just morphed and got very focused and intentful. I’ve always tried to stay level headed, but that set drove me to a rage that I dont like getting to. I used to get that way when my dad would do shit to me or my family. But this time, it was a positive rage….a more intentful and productive one, and I dont regret feeling this way.

Now….I’ve been talking to Dave, and his sticking point so to speak, is letting go of the ego. I sent him a link to Alex~’s blog that deals with that in much depth, but I’ve had a thought or two the past hour. Alot of people talk about getting in state. “How do you get in state?”…”can you be in state all the time?” etc etc. A lot of guys get frustrated because they think about getting in state so much, that it only gets them in their head worse than they were before.

That’s how I see Dave’s fight to drop the ego. Dave…I know you’re reading this lol probably at work….but I think you just need to stop worrying about it. The more you think about letting go of the ego, the harder and more difficult its gonna be to do it. It’s counter productive to get analytical and logical about it. It wont happen in one night. You wont walk up the next day and be like “OH! ego is gone…yes!”….and when this ego ever does leave….thinking about it and realizing it will only bring it back. I think you just need to think about progress, which is great btw, and the goals that you want to achieve. Your mindset transformation will gradually get to the place you want. I hope that helps man lol

ANyway…I’m off to bed…goodnight

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When All Else Fails….Remember Your Past

Posted by fredfierce on September 10, 2008

I was gonna write a FR tonight, but on the way home from the gym…I started thinking about how down I was last week about my game…and ended up having a huge epihany…so I posted this on RSDN. Here it is…

Before we got into the community, we didn’t have confidence. We had limiting beliefs about our looks, our personalities, our financial situation, and we thought we had low value. CHODE-LYNESS. We tried every piece of advice (movies, parents, music, novels) to win that special little gal over with no success. But too bad… she was off riding the cock of that “asshole”, who she “never deserved to be with”. We thought things would just…WORK ITSELF OUT…and we’d finally be happy.

Nope.

But then we found the community. We found routines or natural game. We started approaching at clubs and bars…putting ourselves on the line. We NOW demand change. We NOW decide that something must be done before life passes us by. Our tired of the ways life has gone thus far, and now we’re taking right action.

But then we realized that it wasn’t as easy as we thought. We go “sarging” for weeks and months with little success. We have great nights and horrible nights. Girls blow us out, they curse at us, they turn they’re backs. But once in awhile, we’ll get that number. YAY! We’ll get that makeout or close. Darnit….but I’m in the COMMUNITY now….pulling girls should be easy! 😦

So what do some people do when things aren’t going ideal? “I thought I was gonna be a mega pimp by now!~!1”. They go bye bye….they disappear into the sunset…but not before they officially announce to the message board that they’re bye bye. Peace DragonSlayer69. Kiss my pee pee.

Why did they leave?

Because they dont APPRECIATE THEIR TRANSFORMATIONS!!!!!!

Their chode limiting beliefs disappear, but they’re new GAME limiting beliefs emerge. Back in the day, it was “I dont have that amazing job or car to pull chicks”. Now they believe, “I’m not alpha or dominant enough….it’s just not me!”

They don’t appreciate their current improvement of transformation. Instead of thinking “Hey….back 4 months ago, I wouldn’t approach a cute girl….but now I’m taking charge of my life….I’m going out 3 days a week…and with positive self critique and consistency…I know I’ll reach my goals”; they’ll just get frustrated and down on themselves because of they’re own success barriers.

But to some people, that’s not good enough. And quite frankly, they’ll never be happy because they’ll never be “good enough” in any situation.

Let’s use a hypothetical situation. Let’s take an introverted guy and call him Gary. Gary joined the community and learned pick up six months ago, and when he first started….he was creepy as hell, but at least putting himself out there. He had no social skills whatsoever. But he didn’t give up. He consistently went out 3 nights a week, and approached 5-10 girls a night.

Fast forward six months to today. He’s starting to get pretty good. He can get a decent amount of numbers…he’s had a few makeouts, and even pulled once. Fuck yea. But he’s not that sex worthy guy. In sets, he’s entertainer man…and at times…he tries too hard for a good reaction. But he has come a long way, and went from creepy to entertainer. With enough consistency and practice, he will be SO close to becoming full circle into being a natural. Sure…he could argue or be frustrated that he’s not a natural, but he’s made a complete 180 degree transformation from six months ago. He could say he doesnt have what it takes to be a true natural, and give up. But instead…he stays positive…and looks back at his life before joining the community, and truly appreciates where he is NOW. Gary will keep on with his journey.

Remembering your past, and where you come from originally will always keep you upbeat and positive in this game

Because when you’re pist that you got blown out, or when you fucked up a pull with a hottie at a bar….you can look back to the past, and remember when that the ability to approach or pull wasn’t REMOTELY close to your old reality. When you believe you should leave this community because you’ll never be good enough, go back to the time where you cried over that girl, or stalked her at her house late at night…..laugh at it…and say to yourself “Wow….how far I’ve come”

Just because your standards of life has changed, doesn’t mean you should give up when new challenges come your way.

Appreciate the transformation…the journey…the process…the adventures.

How could you ever go back?

Phred

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LR: Put those Divorce Papers to use

Posted by fredfierce on September 8, 2008

Hey posted this on RSDN earlier…and FR about this weekend will come tomorrow night…anyway….

So while I’m going out 3-4 nights a week…I’ve also been messing around with online stuff. I ended up getting the number of a 37 year old ( about 5’3, brunette, decent shape)

We ended up going to a park tonight around 9pm. She knew my intentions before hand as I made myself clear through messages that I wanted a friends with benefits, and no way a girlfriend. I also knew beforehand that because we hadn’t talked that much before the meet up…that I was going to have to build a good amount of comfort between us before any heavy escalation would be involved. On the other hand….I didnt want any escalation at all…so I would have to slowly ease into it.

We meet up, and right off the bat I give her a really big hug, and kiss her on the cheek, very close to her lips. We fluff talk for a few minutes….and grab her hand while we walk. I do this without thinking….not to make a deal out of this…but as if this is a normal thing I do with girls. I felt like grabbing her hand, so I did it…no questions asked and no hesitation. I find out that she got divorced in March, after she found out that her husband cheated on her. Bummer

I’m escalating really well in such a low energy environment. I tease her a little during our convo, and give her THE CLAW as if its just my natural self. I realize now that I’m using words to describe physical escalation with phrases such as “as if” or “as if this is a normal thing to do”. The reason why I say this is becase I’m getting used to getting physical with women I meet right away, so i’m really “doing” rather than it being a natural extension of self expression.

Anyway, I see a park bench next to this pond so I tell her that we’re gonna sit down here. When we sit down…we dont talk as much…we’re just being one with the scenery in front of us and the connection we built in such a small period of time. Normally I would try to fill the silence with useless convo, but I’m learning that silence can be more powerful than words (Thanks Ryan in your blogpost lol). We eventually meet eye to eye, and I go in for the makeout. Its a go. I touch her all over, and I grab the hair at the back of her head (SIDENOTE: I’ve been doing this A LOT in my makeouts lately, and it’s highly effective in being dominant. The milf in this story said later on that she thought it was really manly). So after making out for a while, I tell her “Let’s go to the car”….and start walking there without her acceptance. Leading is key. We go into her car….and GLORY TIMES!

After I finish on her, she searches for a towel or any paper to wipe up the mess. She ends up finding a copy of her divorce papers and cleans up my mess with them. While she does this she says “How appropriate”. PEACE OUT CHODE EX HUSBAND!

After our glory times, we go for another walk in the park to smoke a cigarette. She opens up a lot more to me, and she’s a really cool chick. I end up telling her a lot about the stories of my past, and it seems like we have a lot in common. We walk her back to her car…kiss her goodnight….and agree to meet up at her house later in the week when her kids are visiting her husband.

Things I’ve learned:
I needed to lead her when where we both wanting to go besides the age difference
Being physical isnt hard…and it shouldnt be as complicated as we make it

And most importantly….girls want to be fucked. This woman’s ex husband had cheated on her. I can’t imagine how someone can feel after having that done to them. I can imagine that she felt so low about herself and so unattractive. And when we said our goodbyes, she said “Thank you so much for tonight”. She didnt say it to just say it, but I could truly feel pure sincerity when she said that. I was the first guy shes been with since her divorce. I made her feel more like a woman again tonight…and more attractive. Writing that really puts a smile on my face…because maybe for her…it wasnt just a fuck. Maybe it just one night where she really felt special again. For one night…she could just let go and be happy again. You cant put a price on that.

Cheers
Phred

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In the near future….

Posted by fredfierce on September 3, 2008

I decided today that I will go through a 30 day challenge starting October 1st. That way I can end it on Halloween…and what an awesome day to celebrate victory with an awesome holiday.

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Stepping it Up

Posted by fredfierce on September 3, 2008

Okay so I’ve been meaning to write this post since last week but since talking to David today, I feel like its finally time to write this. Me and him were talking last night…and he was telling how pist he was on Sunday night after reading The Judge’s 30 day challenge post BC report. I too have been following it through RSDN…and we’re both feeling the fury. I think its without saying that we’ve both made progress…and we know we can kick it up a notch. So I’m listing a guideline for all sets….

1) Kino must be used! There must be some physical contact initiated by me besides the formal handshake. If not done….the person will be forced to be chode slapped (stolen from TheJudge and GoldenChild)…punishing them for acts of pussery.

2) In every set…you must be either getting her number or trying to make out with her. The latter of the two is recommended more, but both are suitable. This way…it will be escalating into something instead of chodeservationland.

3) At the entrance of each venue…you MUST approach the first set you see. Taken from the Flawless Natural. It doesnt matter if it hooks or blows out. We dont care. Approaching right off the bat will allow you to stay out of your head and to set the right tone for the night.

4) We must be in sets for the first 20 minutes of the night. Also taken from the Flawless Natural.

5) You must approach YOUR hottest girl at the club. It’s YOUR 10! Not your wings or other peoples.

Those are the guidelines. Pushing myself out at that comfort zone. The rules have been set. I’m also writing this after talking to Rudey. I explained my problem with escalating….and he explained back to me that its so important. You will either get blown out or get laid. I can deal with that. It’s better than not pulling at all, and every conservation fizzle when i HAD the chance for something if I lead it that way. We’ll see how this goes in next FR

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FR: Married Women Everywhere!

Posted by fredfierce on September 1, 2008

Met up with Dave and Caramel last night. Before I meet up with them…I open a really cute brunette girl on the train seat next to me. I asked her about her Iphone…and we got to talking for a few minutes. Unfortunately, her next stop was right away…and she seemed really disappointed and hesistant that she had to get off. I was just glad that I had the balls to open a really attractive girl without having someone to tell me to do it.

Half an hour later….all 3 of us hit up Plunge. Slightly in my head…but I have a feeling that tonight would be a fun night. I decide to hit up a 4 set of milfs as a warm up set. Walk in saying “Hey I thought you girls looked adorable over here….I just wanted to meet you” or something like that. I’m kinda in my head…and I think they could tell, but talk to me for a few minutes anyway. I find out its one of their birthdays…and we joke around for a little bit. Dave comes in to wing…and goes for the girl who doesnt talk AT ALL lol. Not in a bitchy way though…just as a mega shy way. Anyway….5 minutes later, the set starts to lose steam and we eject.

Dont really do much afterwards….we’re not really feeling Plunge tonight. We all 3 chat for awhile…and Dave ends up opening a 5 or 6 set bachlorette party. All the women are from Long Island….probably 10 mminutes from me…which was something cool to talk about for a while. Dave and Caramel talk to the fiance girl and her sister for a while…while I talk to the 3 other girls. I finally felt warmed up…and fluff talked about Long Island for a little bit. I’m hardcore into one of the married chicks…who is the fiances sister in law. We bullshit about her kids (probably wasnt a good idea in hindsight)….and we just joke around a lot. She asks me a few times about my age…and is really surprised at how young I am. I stay completely unreactive. I think with having a cougar/milf preference…you just hear this way too much. I just dont care anymore…and in the past…I just learned that its just a stupid congruence test anyway. Everything I say at this point is GOLDEN. She laughs at everything I say….and keeps touching my arm. I should have lead her to the bar to isolate her and at least go for the makeout. Being married though kinda fucks me up for that. Its a weird dilemma I suppose…..do I forget about that as maybe hookin up is something she probably wanted to do anyway or do i stick to my morals? Lately…I’ve had this mentality like THIS year would be the time that I finally just dont care what “stops” me from getting with who I want to just doing it.

After awhile…we depart and head all the way over to Sutton Place. Hate it. End of story. I was told that there were a lot of LI girls there….which I didnt mind at first. WOW how I was naive. Now disclaimer: LI girls are not all bad….I’ve met quite a few awesome ones…and it should never stop anyone from trying to meet them. BUT this place was all the quality traits that are bad about these type of girls packed into one venue. Just very stuck up. The only good thing about going there was that I got to meet up with Saad again. Anyone just starting to read this, Saad was my RSD bootcamp insturctor last month. We caught up from the last time we saw each other, and all that stuff. He was really happy to see me…and knew from a couple of FRs/LRs on RSDN that I’ve been improving since bootcamp. He told that at this place, you have to be very direct and aggressive to pull these girls. At this point, I started to get in my head because I realized what I was up against. I’m not that type of guy…YET. I believe deep down that I can be…and I will be….but being in this for a very short amount of time might be a difficult thing for me. I opened maybe 2 sets in there…and completely bombed. I laugh at it now…but I was slightly pist back then. They all came with their chody preppy asshole boyfriends…and we’re just not that type of guy. Thank god.

We soon left Sutton Place…and hit up a few smaller bars. Met up with a few cougars outside of this Irish bar…and properly demonstrated the Shopping Cart Dance :-). I do it for them once and they love it….and they want me to keep doing it. I decline politely to not be sucked into that dancing monkey frame. I chat up with a few of the cougars, who are visiting from North Carolina and Texas. I kino the blonde cougar a lot…and shes really into me. We decide to get out of there at some point to get food…and they were leaving to get back to their hotel. Oh well…I mean I dont think I was gonna get the pull from them.

We also hit up a few other bars before and after the cougars with Achilles and his friend (cant remember his name). I wing a set for Achilles…and was very proud of myself for the short amount of time we were there. I roll up to a really cute brunette girl with an awesome hat…and compliment her on it. Shes slightly receptive…but not feeling it so much. Maybe she thinks Im gonna be just another chode. I’m just trying to occupy the brunette for a little bit, while Achilles talks to his chick. Now the reason I’m proud of this set in particular was not because of kino…but because I realized that I’m getting comfortable with congruence tests. For example, I just previously mentioned that she wasnt very receptive to me. That’s fine. So after the hat compliment, I ask her where she’s from…simple chode question. She gives me a hesitant look and says “…around”. Like the type of look that reads “Ugh…what does this guy want from me?” I’m starting to love these stupid girl responses because I completelty play off of it like I’m oblivious to her shit. I then get really excited but completely sarcastic, and go “wow…I love Around….I havent been there in a few years….blah blah blah”. As soon as I did that, the brunette and even the blonde friend who was spectating for a little start cracking up…and all of a sudden….scenario has changed. No longer just another guy. She comes more interested in me. Unfortunately, we left the bar soon after,…so I cant really reflect on the situation more. I was just happy that I’m becoming more quick witted and less reactive to these tests. Back in the day, I would’ve mentally freaked out for the way she was being….but now I think…how can I turn this around and make it fun? How can I turn her stupid comment into something positive? I’m loving the ping ponginess.

Last bar we go to….I’m tired and slightly drunk at this point. This bar has a lot of Indians in it…but theyre all HOT. I notice a really goregous Indian on the dance floor with her friends…and we make eye contact a few times. I know her from somewhere…but I cant put my finger on it. The next morning…I realize that she was at an accounting seminar I attended like 2 months ago….and I still back then and now didnt have the balls to approach her haha. I really regret not talking to her, but she seemed to be occupied dancing with all her guy and girlfriends. I shouldn’t really make this an issue anymore…because she might not even have a boyfriend. I was pist the next morning….because I knew her from before. It was so perfect to run into her again….and I dropped the ball.

Sunday night I stayed on LI with my sister. We were gonna stay in, but her friend had called and asked me and her to go to a bar with her. Last minute plans ensue and we head out with a few of my childhood friends. Didnt really approach anyone….wasnt the point tonight. My sister has been going through some shit…so I just wanted her to have a great time. And she did :-). We all get bombed. Laughs and good times commence. I end up making out with this kinda chubby girl at the end of the night. Cute face though and awesome personality. The only reason why I post about this night because I realized that with a strong solid frame you can really say anything. I’m talking with the chubbiness for a while…making jokes and getting to know each other. At this point, I’m really drunk (probably made her look better lol)….and convo right before makeout goes like this…

Me: Hey do you have herpes or any other STDs?
Her: hahaha no why would you ask me that?
Me: Shit…It’s just that I really wanted herpes….so I hoping you had them.
Her: haha you’re really crazy
Me: Well if you did have herpes…I would’ve just been like this (grabs head and makes out)

Yeaaaa….I was such a high state that night…I dont really even know why I said all that, but it was two things 1) PURE self amusement 2) emotionally spiked. This was def the weirdest and most hilarious way ive ever transitioned to a makeout…and I loved it. :sigh: why cant i always be like this?

Anyway….I’m going to read Mastery by George Leonard….and sometime during the week, I’ll write my review and opinions of it. Latersssss

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FR: The “Austrian” Hits Plunge

Posted by fredfierce on August 26, 2008

Song of the Day: Led Zeppelin “When the Levee Breaks”
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=4-AanPHMbC4

I choose this song especially because things are becoming together. The pieces are slowly and surely coming together. The water that is my game is going to overflow and finally break through the levee. I know what it takes. When I first started going out with Dave and Jason….I could barely keep my attention on the girl and focused more on the “game” I was spitting. While I did get good reactions, I couldnt see them…I was in another world…not on the same wavelength as the chick I was talking to. We didnt click. But by each week….I’m finally seeing little things. Opportunities float away but not without notice….learning the artform of social dynamics…wondering where I went wrong and vow never to make the same mistake.

NYC has been great to me so far. So much diversity. Local girls and foreign girls that dont speak a lick of english. White girls….black girls….asians….indians. Girls from Ireland…England…Brazil….Russia…Austria. Young girls with ADD who seek validation to sexy cougars who come to this place hoping for a confident young man to fuck them (::cough:: ::cough) I look around….and I think…WOW how can you not get better in such a melting pot of pussy if you’re pushing yourself and making things happen? I’ve started the ignition and let the engine warm up for the past few weeks….now I need to floor it…..

Friday Night: Went to Plunge with Dave and Jason. This was one of the best nights I ever had out. EVERYONE was out 2n….Evenstar, Hiro, LP, GoldenCHild, Indeed, and so many other guys. I promised myself last FR that I would approach the very set I saw and BOOM! I certainly did. Approached a two set from Long Island…and the hottest one was very into me (constantly giggling and playing with her hair), and the other one kinda dug me but she was very shy and quiet. I eventually got into my head and ejected. I shrug it off….I was just glad to get the first set of the night over with.

Opening sets came with ease. A problem I had last week was what Dave had said in his blog…that I was good in sets right near me, and got AA from far away sets. I wasn’t going to let that happen, and I didnt. I went into/winged about 10 sets Friday night, and never got blown out. I approached a lot of 9s and 10s that night, which I’m really proud about. These are the types of really goregous girls that I never imagined myself going up to months ago.

The most memorable set of the night was a girl that I had in the palm of my hands….had that window of opportunity….and jumped into too late. It was funny because it happened by accident. This really cute small blonde chick (8) bumped into me while I was talking to Dave and spilt some of her drink on my shirt. I teased her a little and talked to her for a short time. Dave and Evenstar are with me and start talking to the girl. I dont think much of it…and just chill out…looking around and talking to Evenstar. I notice that she looks my way a few times but again, I dont think anything of it. Then I turn to my right and see Dave slowly push her into me. I’m like to myself “Oh god…what is Dave trying to get me into now” (in a positive way ofcourse)….and all of a sudden…I start leading her to the bar! Like I dont know what I did….I just told her that I’m getting a drink and that shes coming with me. I didnt ask. I just wish it wasnt so crowded because we got broken up a few times. When I eventually reunite with her…me and her are fluff talking and notice that shes REALLY close to me and talking by my lips. I know what she wants. I know what I should do…but I hesitant and get stuck in my head. Damnit lol. She eventually departs and I blew yet another opportunity. Last week with the cougar. This has been driving my fury…letting things slip away like this. It’s lessons learned but i crave the potential glory as well. It seems like this opportunities are also mind fucks. Like…I’m not used to having really really attractive girls dig me. Even when I had my gf…I still never thought I deserved her. It feels awesome that this is happening to me…but its also like WTF??? HOW is this happening? Maybe someone can give me some feedback/advice on how to overcome my “unworthiness” for hot ass bitches like these?

Saturday: The worse of the two nights but still able to gain lessons and value out of it. I was pretty stuck in my head from the beginning of the night. I was tired….didnt approach the very first set I saw…and I kept reading/talking about game all day. THIS IS A BIG NO NO FOR ME FOR NOW ON! I need to disassociate myself with the game as much as possible the night I go out sarging, or else I think too much…thus in my head.

The really good thing that came out of Saturday was using kino more. For example, I jump into a 3 set with Dave and another guy…and start chatting and flirting with one of the really cute ones in the group. When I find out from her that theyre leaving tomorrow to go back to Cali, I joke around that she needs to go crazy…get drunk…and jump on the bar. When she says that she does that sober….I claw her and start leading her to the bar….and she loves me for my escalation. Unfortunately…theyre leaving to go to another bar…but I’m glad I did what I did.

I end up talking with Dave and Jason for most of the night…I’m just not feeling it 2n. I’m so tired from the night before and from the hard workout. But I’m glad I went out. I met this really cute British Indian girl who I really liked…and she was hooked and laughing at what I said. Her friend also enjoyed my prescense. Eventually….like always…the set starts to fizzle…and I can tell that she wanted me to take charge instead of entertaining them for the time being. I can see it in her eyes. It’s too bad also…because I was really into her…and she seems fuckin cool as hell.

Another set inside the bar had a cute blonde girl (7.5) walk by me and Dave. Dave says to open so I do. As she walks by…I tap her on the shoulder and tell her that I thought she was really cute so I wanted to say Hi. As I do this, I grab her hand and pull her hand near my cock as I say this into her ear like Nathan taught us at SC. She smiled and kept walking, but I can tell her that she was kinda into it.

Dave also opens a 2 set of Italian girls…and I decide to wing him. I talk to this really smokin Italian girl….WHO DOESNT SPEAK ENGLISH AT ALL! Holy fuck….I’ve run into this about 5 times in the past 3 weeks. She smiles and again, seems into me…but the communication barrier is there…and me being inexperienced in this area fucks with my head. I know now that when this happens, my intent and non verbal communications have to go WAYYYYY up! Because we dont speak the same language…I cant just tell her shes cute and go from there. She has to FEEL the sexual intent…not hear it.

As the night goes on…I get super tired to the point where I opened a set and just had no idea what I was saying. Not in an illogical funny Alex~ way, but in a “my brain is taking a massive dump” way. For the last set of the night, Dave suggests pretending that I’m from Austria and cant speak English…so he has to be my translator. He opens up a fuckin cutie (9)…and proceeds to tell her that I dont speak English and that I wanted to meet her. I try my best to be dumbfounded and confused while speaking another language….while Dave just makes up crazy shit. She eventually leaves….but we fuckin loved it. I did something way out of my comfort zone…and something completely self assuming. It felt so good.

Conclusion: Each week is getting better and better. This upcoming week….me and Dave are going for the Butterfly Effect….constant approaching and socializing for the first 20 minutes of the night in order to keep the awesome social vibe for the rest of the night. Dave has been getting makeouts…and this game is constantly getting better and better each night we go out. Jason left Plunge with a cougar (jealous!) on Friday and almost got the lay. As for me…Escalation is going to be the focus when I go out for now on. This is one of the key factors that is lacking in my game, and its the missing link that will make my sets potentially turn into RESULTS.

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FR: Lessons Learned

Posted by fredfierce on August 22, 2008

Song of the Day: Sublime “The Wrong Way”
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=hBYjTyXXeOs

Due to Dave’s boredom at work and my stupidity for sleeping in tonight, it is without furthur ado that I post my field report from last Friday.

Me, Dave, and Jason meet up out front of Plunge. This is the first time that I ever needed girls to go into a place, but I wasn’t going to let that affect my state. I was excited to see what the night would bring, and the interesting people I’d meet. So I walk up to a 2 set of really pretty latina girls, and get them to walk in with us.

I felt a bit stifled when I got there. I think that I’m gonna have to follow Tim’s advice, and approach the first girl I see. It might blow up, it might not….but getting the first approach out of the way, and starting things off right is going to push me in the right direction. Usually I’ve been hanging outside for awhile having a cigarette…which is going to make approaching a set that much harder. Also I’m going to have to approach MORE sets. Instead of approaching a set…walking back to my friends…hanging out, and then going to find another one…I should just be on the outlook always.

Friday night I didnt open many sets. I was very much in my head that night for no reason. I cant come up with one, but I guess everyone has their good and bad nights.

Memorable sets include me approaching a 2 set of girls, one from Brazil and London. Maybe this is common for NYC, but whats up with all the Brazilian girls? Just seems kinda random to me. Anyway, things went pretty well with them for awhile…and they kept trying to tool me and trying to suck me into their frame for no reason. I can’t make out why they would. Maybe because they were with their brothers? I opened them up directly telling them that they were really cute, so maybe it was a congruence test? The only cool thing that came out of the set was that I successfully defended myself from AMOGs. I introduced myself to the two brothers, and were very cool with them, but they kept trying to tool me. They said that they wanted to name me Twinkletoes or something like that….but I looked at them with a weird look, and said “what the fuck does that even mean” with a smile, and ignore them for the rest of the set. And they backed off! Later on I realized what I did…and on bootcamp this was a problem for me. There would be sets that when the guy friend came in, I tried to befriend him too much, so that by the end of the set, I would be sucked into the girl and guy’s frame. I’m proud of myself for that one.

Another set was a very hot 2 set of cougars. Man…this one haunted me for the rest of the night. I approach them and start bullshitting with them…finding out where theyre from…and I find out that theyre sister in laws. Okay…so one of them is married but I dont think much of it. One of them was a really cute dirty blonde milf who was my target originally, and the other one was a really hot brunette cougar. The brunette one is more receptive to me but I dont think much of it because I like the other one. So we talk for awhile, and I get them hooked. A few minutes later, the blonde girl tells me that shes gonna go get a drink at the bar. I automatically think that she’s ejecting and that was the end of it. So I naturally say that I’m going to go back to my friends anyway and it was great meeting them. But the thing was that the hot brunette never left to go with her. I thought they were both gonna leave me…and when I was walking away…I looked back at them. The blonde one gave the brunette a look like “what the fuck did he just do? what an idiot”. FUCKKKKKKK I was so pist. I didnt realize until then that the blonde mustve been the married one, and she was going away for a while, so I could isolate the brunette. Man…just typing this still annoys the fuck out of me. The two of set came into my area again about a few minutes later….I’m guessing to give me another opportunity to redeem myself, but it was over. My state dropped like a steaming shit.

Since bootcamp, I’ve approached two sets of cougars and I’ve noticed that unlike younger girls….theyre not all about cockblocks, and petty bullshit that most girls pull. They will openly and genuinely help each other out to get laid. If you read a past FR of mine (FR: Making progress and LIVE trannies)….I approached a 4 set of cougars, and none of them gave me shit (except the bday girl…but I got her into me after passing her test), as they wanted their birthday girlfriend to get laid. Just like this blonde milf wanted her sister in law to get laid. They wont make a big deal about things. They know what they want, and they’re not all about games and bullshit. She easily set me up to ravish her sister in law, and I was too oblivious to realize it.

By the end of this set I was miserable. I dont like making ridiculously obvious mistakes but with more field experience, I will pick up more on this. It’s just lessons learned. I opened a set or two here and there, but it was just over at this point. I was about to leave when Dave pulls me into a 2 set with Brazilian blondes, and tells me about her tattoo. For some reason, I get rejuvenated and end up talking to this girl for about half an hour, maybe more. She was def a 9 in my opinion, and I really had a great time talking to her. Her name is Maglia. Speaking of her, I dropped her a text tonight, and she ended up calling me and chatting for about 5 minutes. Anyway….we roleplayed as a married couple and then divorced. I tease her a lot, but I also get to know her really well. Turns out, she was previously engaged even though shes only 24. I got her laughing a lot, and she is really receptive to me. Dave helps me out in the set by taking wedding pics of her. Dave…get those pics up already! haha. Anyway, after talking for awhile, she said “well I think you should get my number, what do you think?” OFCOURSE! This was the first time I was number closed by a really hot girl, and it was a bit of a mindfuck for me. BTW..the whole time we’re talking….we were very close to each other….and I tried to kino her anytime I could. Anyway….I ended up leaving her around 1:30 to go home.

Although it was a “bad night” state wise….I did have good moments as well as some horrible moments (cougarssssss)…..but it’s part of the process and I accept that. I’m lucky to learn from my mistakes, and I cant wait until a few months from now…because with going out with Dave and Jason more…we’re gonna become a really sweet combo.

Anyway….I’ll be going out tomorrow. I was gonna stay on the island, but I think I should hit up the city to make up for tonight.

Fred

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